10 Relationship Commandments For Every Man and Woman

10 commandments for single guys and ladies!!!
1. Put God first in everything you do. Before you set out to look for a life partner, put God first, remember only God can lead you to a virtuous woman.

2. Do not depend on your dad's money and wealth. Instead learn how to be a real man, save some money, make some investment and try to be independent.

3. Never you lay your hands on a lady, real men don't beat women, they take control of situations even when they are angry. Remember beating up/slapping a lady makes you appear weak to her.

4. Do not start what you cannot finish. Why date more than one girl when you're going to end up marrying just one? Are you King Solomon? From my findings you must be suffering from indecision and lack of self control.

5. Cut down your drinking, sex and smoking habits, as a guy, I can't remember seeing a drunk/smoker as a responsible guy not to talk of the ladies. Also, having premarital sex doesn't make you a big boy because big boys have self control.

6. Take some time off on your own and think about your life as a journey. Ask yourself these 4 questions: "What have I achieved so far?" "Where was I about 4yrs back?"(Compare your now and then). "What do I want to achieve in the next 4yrs to come?" "What do I need to do to achieve my goals in 4yrs time?" (And put down your answers into writing).

7. Be focused in your studies. Have a goal, chase your dreams and not women, they will come in numbers after you've achieved your goals in life. Forget sex for now, remember sex is only meant for married couples. Premarital sex is a SIN!! and has implications.

8. Don't forget to treat other people's sisters and daughters the way you want your sisters to be treated. Remember if you don't have a sister, you might have a daughter in future.

9. Dress well, don't sag your trousers, it won't make you appear modest or responsible. Please dress well @least to attract a godly and responsible lady. Remember how you dress is how you are addressed.

10. Do not try to woo a lady with money, remember first impression really matters. Instead go real and allow her to fall for your personality, let her love you for who you are and not what you have/are. 

10 COMMANDMENTS FOR SINGLE LADIES!!!

1. Never fail to pray before saying yes to a man. Don't be in a hurry to get
married. If you rush in, you may rush out with a lot of injuries!

2. Discover Your Purpose before marriage. Go To School Or Learn A Trade.
Don't wait for a man before you start living. Add value to yourself. Have a life.

3. Don't run after a man because of his money, cars, connection, position, talent, or family background. Marry a man base on the conviction of the Holy Spirit and Love.

4. Develop a healthy eating habit. Don't be too fat that single men begin to think you are married. It takes discipline to do that.

5. Dress well: First Impression counts. Don't expose any of your private part
for men to see otherwise you might only attract a player not a responsible man.

6. Don't beg or force a man to marry you. You are too precious to do that. And don't try to hook and keep a guy with sex or unwanted pregnancy.
Many ladies who do that end up in shame and regrets.

7. Your character is your marriage. It makes a man want to spend the rest of his life with you. So Work on your character. Beauty is not everything. If it is all you have, you'll lose your place to someone more beautiful and more matured than you.

8. Never fail to learn how to cook good food. Men usually love a woman who
feed them with good food because one of the easiest way to a man's heart is through stomach (good food).

9. Never fail to read at least to0 books on marriage & family before your wedding. The marriage you don't prepare for will confuse you when you get there.

 
10. Attend marriage seminar and premarital counseling before marriage.

A PERFECT MARRIAGE.

What is a perfect marriage?

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other. What makes a marriage perfect? Let`s consider the qualities which makes a marriage perfect:

THE FEAR OF GOD: This is the most important point to note. Why? It is because a married couple who possesses the fear of God will definitely have all the qualities that make up a perfect marriage. Remember the book of proverbs in d bible says "The fear of God is the beginning of wisdom". That`s to say if couples have the fear of God, they will know what is right and what is not right and will do what is right to make the marriage a success.

LOVE: Love is the principal thing in marriage. Married couples ought to love each other truly no matter the circumstances they find themselves.
When couples are truly in love with each other, they tend to overlook so many shortcomings, thus making them to forgive each other and let go easily. They show true care to each other simultaneously. Also they express their feelings in diverse romantic ways which makes them happy.

TRUST: Trust is key in every relationship we find ourselves. Trust is needed by dating, courting and married couples. If couples can`t trust each other it results in infidelity and this can threaten a once healthy marriage. Therefore every couple must strive to win each other`s trust because when there is trust in marriage such marriages are more likely to last forever.

RESPECT: A saying says "respect is reciprocal" but i say "respect is like a selfie shot". You ought to respect yourself first before you can earn respect from someone else. Why am I saying this? For instance you know that if someone takes your money without your permission, you would be upset or mad and you go ahead and pick someone else`s money without the owner`s permission. That`s disrespectful. Don`t forget the saying "do unto others what you wish others to do unto you". Where there is mutual respect in marriage, there is peace and harmony in the home.

COMMITMENT: This is a major point that seems to be the most challenging of all in today`s world. When dating couples cannot be committed to each other how can they be committed in marriage? Note that whatever happens while you`re dating/courting could possibly happen in marriage if not properly addressed. Commitment is not just a feeling, its determination. Couples who are not committed to their spouses end up committing adultery or such marriage tends to end up in divorce.

PERSEVERANCE: Remember the definition of a perfect marriage-"two imperfect people (married) who refuse to give up on each other" no matter the circumstance they find themselves. Remember those vows "for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health". Those are strong words that need perseverance. When you can`t bear burdens, and pressures, it could lead to a fallout in the matrimonial journey. So we ought to learn this great quality in order to enjoy a perfect marriage. 

SELF CONTROL: Self control is very relevant in every aspect of life. When couples have self control, they can overcome so many tempting situations. Some areas couples need self control are: temper, sexual urge, emotions etc. A spouse that can`t control him/herself would easily fall into a trap, lay hands on his/her spouse when angry, or even cheat on his/her partner not because they don’t love their partners, not because they don't trust their partners but because they lack self control. So with self control, a marriage becomes a perfect one.

Note: This article is not trying to say humans are perfect rather its letting us know that two imperfect couples could enjoy a perfect marriage if they possess the aforementioned qualities.

Do you agree?

Written, edited, and composed by Emaediong Obot.